Think the girls in the city had it tough? Try flipping the script. It’s one thing to date and have sex and enjoy the temporary gratification, but it’s another to make the decision to go without. Some do it because they’ve had enough of the emotional trauma that it causes. Others do it because they can’t find anyone worthy of their goods. And others, including myself, do it because of religious reasons. I am a 31 year old Christian. Some time ago, I decided that I would like to wait until I get married to have sex again. At least I’ll not only have the pleasure of having sex, but I’ll get the love and commitment that should come along with it.
Is celibacy an easy thing to endure? Of course not. It’s torture. Sometimes sex is all I can think about, not to mention dealing with the sexual tension. Can you imagine going to a bookstore asking the salesperson if they have books on sexual tension? That’s embarrassing. However, there is something inside of me that says that abstaining from sex and waiting for my spouse will be well worth the wait.
In the meantime, what do you do? Well, if you’re like me, you wake up everyday and pray that this is the day that you will meet someone who will respect your decision and who is willing to take the journey with you. Sure, the clock is ticking, and no one wants to wait forever. But that’s the nice thing about faith. It allows me to think and feel that my “living single” days are coming to an end. When they do, I’ll have a wonderful man in my life that will honor me for purifying myself and for keeping my vow to God.
By : Lisa Moorman